Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Realization.
Man life can throw you punches but I guess it is to help us grow and learn who we are as individuals. In my life I have never really had a problem with making friends or with being one that people enjoy being with or getting along with. I don't mean to sound conceited but this has truly been my one talent I thought the big guy gave me. For a while now I have been feeling for the first time that I just can't seem to mesh with the people in my ward. Everyone around me says that it is the most amazing ward and I am trying, or I have tried. The people and are just aren't meshing. It seems as though I go but no one in the ward really knows who I am. I have tried to even go to a relief society retreat which is VERY out of my comfort zone. I attended classes by myself and I honestly thought that I met some women there. I lost my calling tonight which I totally understand why. They need someone in there that can click with the rest of the presidency and especially the president. The children are so important and whatever is best for them I am all for. Unity in a presidency makes all the difference so I have known this is coming. I guess what all of this is coming down to is the old question of, when in life to you become a different person without even realizing you've gotten there? I realize that I have become someone different that people can't necessarily relate to anymore. It's a tough realization but one that I am really going to try and figure out how to become me again and find that spark that I used to have. I want to be able to have my one talent again. It was something that I cherished and at times like this miss very much.
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Hmmmm...not sure what is going on down there, but I have always seen that special something in you. In fact, that is why I snatched you up when you first moved in. I have always admired your friendliness, enthusiasm and all around fun personality. I am sure you still have it because I saw it. I think when we get married sometimes we feel out of sorts for awhile until we figure out our new identity...learning how to be find that perfect balance between our old self and the new one person we are expected to be.
Sorry so long and if it sounded like a pep talk. You're great and you'll do great things. Just take your time and find your place.
The ward really is amazing, but for me I just had to give it some time (like a year) and really learn to extend myself. Good luck! I miss you guys!
Megs, You are still that amazing person you were back then. I think you have gone through a lot over the last couple years and that has taken a lot out of you personally, and you have lost your ability to trust and open up, for fear of being hurt. I know some of the people in your ward, and I know they aren't all bad. It is hard though to get in somewhere where friendships, and cliques have already formed, but don't give up.
You are amazing, and I am so happy to have you as a sister, I know that because of you I am who I am. I would have never had the confidence in myself if I wouldn't have had you in high school with me. So thank you! Just keep truckin! I know you will be fine, you always seem to end up there.
I remember when we first got married...it was really weird to "fit it". I wasn't quite sure how to be ME and be JEFF'S WIFE. Especially with ward stuff...we've been married 2 1/2 years and are LOVING our ward now, but it took some time to find our spot.
I have always admired the confidence you radiate! I wish I had a tiny bit of that! Jeff isn't very good at remembering things, but he DEFINITELY remembers my cousin Meg because of how special and accepted you made him feel. It IS a gift you have!
I know you and I know you are not one to throw in the towel. I've said all of this to you before, but I'm going to say it again. A ward is as great as YOU make it.
If people see the Meg that I know, the one that throws herself into the middle of things, they won't be able to help themselves. They will not be able to resist you.
You are an amazing person, but you have lost a little bit of that confidence you had an abundance of! You and I have always talked about how making friends looks easy, but really takes a lot of work and a lot of stepping out of our comfort zone. You're in a new stage of life and it's time to step out of that comfort zone and put yourself out there. It's going to be tough, but if anyone is capable, it's you.
Remember, the best way to find ourselves is to lose ourselves serving the Lord. (I'm not trying to preach, it's just true.) Go to your bishop and ask for a new calling. You need one. Everyone needs one. Let him see you want to serve and then do it.
I love ya, Megs. This is just one of those bridges we all have to cross at some point in our lives. You can do it. I know you won't give up.
Hey girl....I know we haven't seen each other since high school (I think?) BUT I can tell from your posts that you still have an amazing love for life and others. You haven't lost it to me. As far as your calling...no worries...something else is out there for you---I've had a really hard time in our wards (2 of them) since we've been married (2 years next week) and since having a baby I've actually been given a calling (FINALLY--that's after asking in both wards) and this is the busiest time of my life, with a baby at church. I've made 'friends' at church(I don't hang out with them) but they all have little ones about the same age as Ally and we walk the halls and share new things about our little ones. And I must say, by doing my visiting teaching(because now I have active ones) I've made 3 new friends. So, yes...talk to the Bishop and the RS Pres. Meg, you are very friendly and talented---they'll put you right to work! Keep your head up!
You're lucky you aren't in the military! We have been in Virginia for two years, and we are moving to a completely different stake. I was just starting to make some friends, and now we move. We might not be in this ward for more than six months.
Fitting in has been really difficult, especially since Reed doesn't go to church. I'm the mother with a child and an "inactive" husband.
I admire your courage and that you keep trying. Keep that prayer in your heart, because i find that can sometimes help on even the toughest days. Luv ya!
I think it is this new stage in life. I remember when we first moved into our ward after getting married, I felt the same way. It took me almost a year before I felt like I was really part of the ward. Part of that was my fault for not really trying, part of it was just accepting that this was not the singles ward where everyone knew me, and part of it was feeling a little intimidated by being in Harlem and dealing with a congregation that is oh so different (and wonderful) than any I have ever been in. I think it takes some time to adjust to this new reality of wife (and soon to be mother) and get to know people in a new ward, especially a family ward. Activities are different, opportunities to socialize are different. You haven't really changed. You will find your place.
I have to agree with everyone when they say that I have always admired your fun and confident personality. I love everything about you! I totally know how you feel about the whole ward business though. I have felt that same way for the year that Alan and I have lived in our home. I still don't really feel like I fit anywhere and the only other couple that we actually talked to just moved out of our ward. Just recently I have felt a little more accepted, but I still feel out of place. I'm hoping that once I have the baby and have more in common with people that that will help a little bit. Hang in there and if you ever need someone to vent to about it, (i know i need that sometimes) I may not be much, but I will always be there to listen!! Love ya and know that things will always work out the way they are supposed to...and keep being the amazing person you are!
Megs! I know that it has been a few years since I have seen you. But I know you are the happy amazing person that I always admired you for being. I always loved you and Kac both for that same reason.
You were always so full of life and so happy! And I know you still have that in you!
But I also know that in my life at least that things change as you get older and go through things but you are still the same person that you always were. You are still that happy wonderful Meghan that everyone has always loved. The Lord has a reason for taking you from that calling. And He has something wonderful in store for you.
So keep being that amazing person we all know that you are! We all love you...whether we see you everyday or every couple of years haha :)
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